How Faith and Patience are Intertwined.

“Stop stressing about it and will just happen.”

“Just relax and let it happen.”

“Stop putting so much pressure on yourself!”

“Worry will make it worse, just let it go!”

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When we are seeking the sincerest desires of our hearts – the next step in life we are aching for – these words of advice come often from those around us. Whether it is finding a spouse, trying to conceive, or waiting for a wayward child to come back, it seems that the answer is to give up, to stop trying. But when it is the thing you want most, how do you stop trying?

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We must be “First Responders” to our spiritual promptings…

This last weekend we had the privilege of driving up to see my sister-in-law Sierra perform in the BYU Women’s Chorus Spring Recital. As an added bonus, we also were able to get tickets to a session of General Conference for Griffin and me, Sierra and her friend, and my in-laws.

Friday evening, we were able to catch a portion of the choir practice, which was amazing, and then we returned later to see them tear it up with a variety of talent-filled pieces. The hymns they sang really brought the spirit and the more fun pieces really brought joy to the audience.

What surprisingly affected me the most (as a precursor to conference) was the guest choir. Before they would sing certain pieces, both the BYU Women’s Chorus and the guest choir, would read aloud the lyrics. I found this very helpful, both from a musical stand-point and it helped me understand the feeling the song was meant to have before it was sung.

The Guest Choir sung a religious number with very few lyrics, but the lyrics it did have were very powerful and very striking for me.

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Must We Struggle Through our Struggles?

Stay positive. Have a good attitude. Have faith. Focus on something else. I can be patient. I can do hard things. It’s not as hard a trial as I thought. 

I think we all give ourselves a version of this pep talk when we are experiencing a trial or enduring a particularly difficult experience. I know I have.  We want to psych ourselves up; We are good people and we are strong. This trial isn’t as trying as you would think. People can’t even tell I am having a hard time, right? So people who look close shouldn’t be able to tell either. Right? Continue reading Must We Struggle Through our Struggles?

When A Leap of Faith is Too Much

There are times in life when our faith doesn’t seem to fill up the cup anymore. When our attitude has shifted. When we want to do great things and want to succeed and feel that joy from the success after the struggle and it just doesn’t happen the way we thought.

What do we do when that leap of faith for Him seems like too big a step, like too far a jump or just too much to ask?

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The Realization that Helped Me Heal After Divorce

My first husband was a kind, silly, fun and good man. And I was beyond excited when I had the privilege of marrying him in the temple. But a temple wedding does not a perfect marriage make.

He was kind and caring and wanted to do the right things. He wanted to be the man I could count on and wanted to make me happy.

Part of this life is understanding that we all have weaknesses and that we are here on earth to learn to overcome them through the atonement of Jesus Christ. I have had many opportunities to partake is the atonement to help me overcome my weaknesses, and have also learned the atonement is there to help me forgive others for their weaknesses.

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I learned it the hard way…

In the months and conversations that followed my divorce, I often tried to escape the likely awkward surprising moments when people realized I was a 22-year-old divorcee with humor. They would say “I’m sorry…” and I would say, “I’m not, I am happy now! Its a good thing!”  And while that was true….it still doesn’t account for all the heartache in between. They would say… “Oh, that must have been hard….I can’t believe you had to go through that” and I would say “Oh, it’s okay, Heavenly Father knows that I need to learn things the hard way.

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